You Don't Need Validation, What You Need is Called Self-belief

What if you are currently being wronged?

Apr 12, 2025

A humble tea man working in the shadows. Photo by Antoine Van Aerde

"In the end, no darkness will ever be able to put a finger on you."

Every day, we’ as creators are exposed to critics who want nothing more than your attention and their approval of you. Your 'fire' or progress hurts them—shedding light on their inaction.

Tea round the fire in Egypt. Photo by Antoine Van Aerde

To give them a sense of relief, it soothes them to dim your light—so that you can become their equal again.

Never fool yourself by this group. They are usually the ones who show their faces only to criticise your work—without ever celebrating your wins. They make you feel like it is never enough, provoking dangerous perfectionism—which blocks most creators today.

Know this, there is nothing like constant evolution or making 'mistakes'—whatever you may call it during your journey.

"Always remember, you don't need validation, what you need is called self-belief."

When these culprits appear on your radar, respectfully decline their shadow so you can stay focused on your craft—and shine a little brighter with every step.

Dancing palm trees in Ain Hudra Oasis. Photo by Antoine Van Aerde

In the end, no darkness will ever be able to put a finger on you. Always remember, you don't need validation, what you need is called self-belief.

Building Unshakable Self-Belief: Your Action Plan 💪

So how do you cultivate this self-belief that protects your creative spirit? Here are five actionable steps to strengthen your inner foundation:

Create a wins journal - Document every achievement, no matter how small. On difficult days, flip through these pages to remind yourself of your capabilities and progress.
Establish healthy boundaries - Be selective about whose feedback you invite. Choose mentors and peers who challenge you constructively rather than those who simply criticise.
Practice daily affirmations - Speak powerful truths to yourself each morning. "My work has value" or "I trust my creative instincts" can reprogram negative thought patterns over time.
Embrace the learning curve - When you make a mistake, ask yourself: "What did this teach me?" rather than "Why am I not good enough?" Turn every stumble into a stepping stone.
Find your creative tribe - Surround yourself with fellow creators who understand the journey and celebrate your growth authentically. Their energy will fuel yours.

As Maya Angelou wisely said: "You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody."

Your creative voice matters not because others validate it, but because it is uniquely yours. The world needs your perspective—one that no critic can diminish unless you hand them that power. So take it back, hold it close, and let your light shine unapologetically bright.

Have a great weekend!

Antoine

You Don't Need Validation, What You Need is Called Self-belief

What if you are currently being wronged?

Building Unshakable Self-Belief: Your Action Plan 💪

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